Let Children be Themselves

Let Children be Themselves
Author: Sudha Gupta

If not all, but most of the parents find it ‘too much to handle’ when their child jumps on the sofa or makes noise at home. Parents are often heard making comments like how they had to swallow humiliation when their son made a pile of all the cushions at their relative’s place and sat on it. If the child eats in a little messy way, it invites a stern stare from the mother. And if the child comes home with mud all over, he is told how ‘dirty he is’. Even warned that he’ll fall ill and given strict instructions that this should not be repeated. Parents, on seeing such behavior, start thinking how rowdy, indisciplined and 'out of control' their child is becoming. They begin to feel that this way he'll forget his manners or etiquettes that will become a cause of embarrassment in front of others.

Are you one of those parents who think the similar way about your child’s behavior ?

Parents quite often forget after all he is just a child. Remember, you can clean mud stains on your child but not wipe out the impressions on his mind. Your restrictions would curtail his movement, confine his natural expression and limit his growth. There is no fixed formula to be an ideal parent and to raise children perfectly. But you can work towards becoming a good parent and see that your child blossoms.

Children are children, don’t expect them to behave like adults

Children cannot be expected to sit in a corner quietly or assess the outcome of a certain thing and then act. Their young minds are too naïve for that. They are filled up with so much of energy that they need to stay busy doing one thing or the other. Hence, making noises, hopping around doesn't mean your child lacks manners. He is just acting natural.

Children are inherently curious, don’t snub them

Children have inherent curiosity to explore and experiment. They want to indulge in every activity and find out what is what. Thus, fidgetting around with things of the house comes naturally to them. Don't put taboos on his expedition to discover. Because discovering things is play for them and in this play, they learn all the lessons of early years. This way a child's imagination widens, his desire to explore strengthens, and his confidence to find out and seek increases manifold.

Children will not remain children forever, let them enjoy

Most important, you need to understand that these magic years of childhood will never return. Let him enjoy and treasure some golden memories. Give your child full freedom and opportunity to enjoy this golden period of his life. How he spends these formative years will decide the very basis of his personality. An atmosphere full of freedom would make him bubble with enthusiasm and develop positive attitude that'll last throughout his life.

How often do we, as adults, recall our childhood days and compare that those tender years were the best part of life? So, why take away this chance from our little ones. After all, we may not be able to keep our children as 'children' forever, but we can keep the 'child' in them alive always.

Tip:- Let children grow the way nature intended. Playing in sand, splashing in water, singing in the rain. Better to have a mud stained but happy child than a clean and sad one.

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About the Author:

Mother’s Pride is headed by the renowned educationist and sought after parenting expert Mrs. Sudha Gupta. Her vision encompasses not only children but parents, teachers and the society on the whole.

As an educationist, she has single-handedly revolutionized pre-school education. Her thoughts have inspired parents and teachers to look at early childhood education from a new perspective. Her emphasis on overall development of child and not just academics has opened new window for tiny tots to blossom into extraordinary beings. Now this visionary has set her eyes to transform formal education system through Presidium, a proposed senior secondary school.

As an expert on parenting, she has given parenting its due importance and popularity. She conducts seminars and orientations regularly to guide parents about positive parenting. Her mission to transform parenting does not limit to a few thousand parents whose children pass out of various branches of Mother’s Pride but millions of parents across the country through her publications in leading newspapers and magazines.

As a social activist, Sudha Gupta’s concern for the society and country is evident not only in her writing, but takes practical shape in the form of a NGO called Sparsh.

Sparsh has so far reached out to millions of poor, needy, mentally and physically challenged children as well as generous contributions have been made as aid to families of Kargil martyrs and Tsunami victims.

In just a few years, Mrs. Gupta has achieved more than what would ordinarily take a lifetime.